Be kind to one another
Today, I heard about a most unfortunate incident. A man asked his driver to pull over on third mainland bridge, he alighted and jumped into the water.
He was sane. A medical doctor. Drove a Nissan SUV. Had a driver, a family.
Someone on my instagram timeline said she actually saw him jump in to the water, she was driving toward him.
He just killed himself. And I kept wondering why.
As I wondered, so many thoughts crossed my mind. People are going through things! Some people are depressed, sad, overwhelmed, stressed out and stretched thin.
Could it be money, family, work? What can make someone take their life and in such a manner?
Sometimes people offend you and do not apologise. Or they apologise on their own terms with phrases like 'Sorry if I offended you'. It shows no remorse or empathy. I think it's cold. I think 'I'm sorry you felt that way' or 'I'm sorry I made you feel that way' would be better and is more personal.
Other times people do not appreciate you for stretching yourself. A little acknowledgment would be nice. Just so that the person feels appreciated, maybe even noticed.
Maybe it was one of these reasons that frustrated Mr. Orji. Maybe not. Maybe marriage.
Marriage has the ability to make one happy and fulfilled. And it has the ability to make one frustrated and depressed. It depends on how much work both parties are willing to put in. There are no mind readers in marriage, things need to be laid bare and addressed openly. But where one person decides that they are entitled to more privileges than the other person, or where one person continues to be at the receiving end of the other person's insensitivity, wahala go dey! You did not marry someone to make them a fool, I thought you married them to enjoy seeing them smile beside you. Don't let that change!
Every human being deserves some validation from time to time.Everyone needs some kindness.
Let's be kind to one another. And do to others what you want them to do to you.
Be sensitive. Be kind. You never know what the next person is going through.
He was sane. A medical doctor. Drove a Nissan SUV. Had a driver, a family.
Someone on my instagram timeline said she actually saw him jump in to the water, she was driving toward him.
He just killed himself. And I kept wondering why.
As I wondered, so many thoughts crossed my mind. People are going through things! Some people are depressed, sad, overwhelmed, stressed out and stretched thin.
Could it be money, family, work? What can make someone take their life and in such a manner?
Sometimes people offend you and do not apologise. Or they apologise on their own terms with phrases like 'Sorry if I offended you'. It shows no remorse or empathy. I think it's cold. I think 'I'm sorry you felt that way' or 'I'm sorry I made you feel that way' would be better and is more personal.
Other times people do not appreciate you for stretching yourself. A little acknowledgment would be nice. Just so that the person feels appreciated, maybe even noticed.
Maybe it was one of these reasons that frustrated Mr. Orji. Maybe not. Maybe marriage.
Marriage has the ability to make one happy and fulfilled. And it has the ability to make one frustrated and depressed. It depends on how much work both parties are willing to put in. There are no mind readers in marriage, things need to be laid bare and addressed openly. But where one person decides that they are entitled to more privileges than the other person, or where one person continues to be at the receiving end of the other person's insensitivity, wahala go dey! You did not marry someone to make them a fool, I thought you married them to enjoy seeing them smile beside you. Don't let that change!
Every human being deserves some validation from time to time.Everyone needs some kindness.
Let's be kind to one another. And do to others what you want them to do to you.
Be sensitive. Be kind. You never know what the next person is going through.
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